This BDSM contract template allows two adults to clearly define their roles, the scope of their dynamic, their limits, permitted practices, safety rules, protocols and aftercare.
Each rule can be selected and completed directly on this page. Fill in only the sections that apply to your relationship, then print your customized version or save it as a PDF. Both participants should openly discuss their expectations and each keep a copy of the contract.
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BDSM Contract to Complete
In sections where only one answer is requested, select only the option you choose. Where multiple answers are allowed, select every rule you want to include. Complete each field associated with a selected option.
This contract allows two adults to define the framework of a BDSM practice, a Dominance and submission (D/s) relationship, or a dynamic in which roles alternate. It sets out the roles, the scope of the authority being entrusted, each person's limits, safety rules and the ways a practice can be stopped or the dynamic suspended.
In this contract, "the Dominant" refers to the person who receives expressly granted authority within the chosen limits. "The submissive" refers to the person who agrees to follow that authority within the agreed framework. When roles alternate, these terms refer to the role held at that particular time rather than a permanent identity.
This document structures a consensual practice between adults. It represents a personal and symbolic commitment. It does not create ownership rights, legal authority over another person or blanket authorization for future practices.
Consent remains freely given and may be withdrawn at any time. Either person may refuse a practice, use a stop signal, suspend the dynamic or end the contract without needing the other person's permission.
Rules concerning consent, health, safety, stop signals and emergencies take priority over every other clause.
1. Participants and Roles
Both participants confirm that they are adults, are taking part voluntarily in this dynamic and have had the opportunity to openly discuss their expectations and limits.
Participant 1
Name or nickname:
Primary role in this dynamic. Select one answer only.
Dominant
Submissive
Switch
Other role:
Participant 2
Name or nickname:
Primary role in this dynamic. Select one answer only.
Dominant
Submissive
Switch
Other role:
Role Switching
Select one answer only.
Roles remain fixed for the entire duration of the contract
Roles may be reversed after the explicit agreement of both participants
Roles alternate under the following conditions:
Other role arrangement:
Title Used for the Dominant
This section is optional. Multiple answers may be selected.
No particular title
Master
Mistress
Dom
Domme
Sir
Ma'am
Other title:
If "No particular title" is selected, no other answer in this section should be selected.
Term Used for the Submissive
This section is optional. Multiple answers may be selected.
First name or nickname only
Submissive
Submissive
Sub
Other term:
If "First name or nickname only" is selected, no other answer in this section should be selected.
2. Nature and Scope of the Dynamic
The chosen scope determines when the roles and rules in this contract apply. Outside that framework, no additional authority may be assumed.
Primary Form of the Dynamic
Select one answer only.
A single session or scene
Regular sessions or scenes with no ongoing authority outside them
A D/s dynamic limited to clearly defined times
A D/s dynamic integrated into certain parts of daily life
An ongoing D/s dynamic with written exceptions
A 24/7 dynamic within the specific limits of this contract
Other form of dynamic:
Times and Situations Covered
Multiple answers may be selected.
During planned sessions
During private times agreed by both participants
At home or in the following private locations:
Remotely, according to the agreed times and communication methods
In certain everyday situations
In certain public places only in a discreet form and without involving anyone outside the dynamic
During certain agreed trips or stays
Other situation:
Applicable days, times or periods:
Areas Excluded from the Entrusted Authority
Multiple answers may be selected.
Work and professional life
Education or training
Family relationships
Friendships
Romantic life and choice of partners
Medical decisions and access to healthcare
Housing and essential needs
Personal finances and bank accounts
Devices, passwords and personal accounts
Other excluded area:
Any area not expressly entrusted to the Dominant remains under the sole control of the person concerned.
3. Duration, Trial Period and Reviews
Start date and time:
Contract Duration
Select one answer only.
For a single session or scene
7 days
30 days
3 months
6 months
Until:
Indefinite duration with mandatory reviews
Other duration:
Trial Period
Select one answer only.
No specific trial period
The first session serves as the trial period
Trial period of: days
Trial period until:
Other trial period:
During the trial period, either person may remove a rule, reduce the intensity or end the contract immediately.
Scheduled Reviews
Multiple answers may be selected.
After the first session
Within 24 hours of the start of the contract
After 7 days
Every month
After introducing a new practice
After an incident, unexpected stop or use of a safeword
On the following date:
According to the following frequency:
Any modification must be explained, written down and accepted by both participants. No rule may be added or expanded unilaterally.
The contract does not renew automatically. Continuing beyond the chosen duration requires the explicit agreement of both participants.
4. Consent and Suspension of the Dynamic
This contract confirms a general framework. It never replaces the consent required before a practice, while it is taking place and whenever a new situation arises.
Consent to one specific practice does not automatically apply to another practice, a different intensity, a new accessory, another location, recording or the presence of a third party.
Silence, stillness, hesitation or lack of reaction do not constitute agreement. If there is any doubt, the practice must stop and consent must be clearly checked.
Methods Used to Check Consent
Multiple answers may be selected.
Discussion before each session or significant practice
Clear verbal confirmation before starting
Review of a list of previously agreed practices
Regular questions or check-ins during the practice
Written confirmation before a remote task or practice
Other method:
Situations Requiring Immediate Suspension
The following situations always require an immediate suspension. They are not optional.
Request from either participant
Unusual pain or pain different from what was agreed
Injury, illness or physical problem
Emotional distress, panic or a concerning psychological reaction
Inability to communicate or check the other person's condition
Significant impairment of consciousness or loss of responsiveness
Use of alcohol, medication or substances that makes consent uncertain
A serious personal conflict that makes it difficult to clearly distinguish BDSM play from a real disagreement
Defective equipment, missing safety equipment or an environment that has become unsafe
Other situation that must also result in suspension:
A suspension related to consent, health, safety or emotional state never constitutes disobedience and may not result in any consequence.
If a role-play scenario includes simulated refusals, this possibility must be expressly agreed before the session. The safeword and nonverbal signal remain mandatory and always override the scenario.
5. Safewords and Stop Signals
A safeword is an agreed word used to slow down or immediately stop a practice. It should be easy to understand, remember and distinguish from language used during the scene.
Safeword System
Select one answer only.
Traffic-light system using "green," "yellow" and "red"
Custom safewords
Other system:
In the traffic-light system, "green" means the practice may continue. "Yellow" means slow down, reduce intensity or check in. "Red" requires an immediate stop.
Word requiring an immediate stop:
Word asking to slow down or check in:
Word indicating that the practice may continue:
Nonverbal Signal
A nonverbal signal should be established whenever a person may be gagged, restrained, out of breath, unable to speak clearly or placed in a situation where their voice may not be heard.
Multiple answers may be selected.
Three repeated taps with a hand or foot
Drop an object being held in the hand
Repeatedly open and close the hand
Make a clearly recognizable repeated sound
Use the following movement:
Other nonverbal signal:
Primary nonverbal signal or details:
Using the stop safeword or nonverbal signal requires the current action to stop, restraints to be removed promptly without making the situation worse, and the condition of the person concerned to be checked. The practice may resume only after clear communication and renewed explicit consent. No one is required to resume the session.
Using a safeword, nonverbal signal or asking to stop is never a fault, failure or act of disobedience and may not lead to any consequence, punishment or pressure.
Outside an expressly agreed role-play scenario, the words "no," "stop," and any other clear expression of refusal also require an immediate stop. Lack of response, loss of responsiveness or inability to check the other person's condition requires the same stop even if no safeword has been spoken.
6. Health, Safety and Emergencies
Each person voluntarily shares health information that is genuinely relevant to the safety of the chosen practices. No private information unrelated to the BDSM dynamic should be required. Information written here remains confidential and is used only to adapt practices, prevent incidents and respond appropriately in an emergency.
Information About Participant 1
Known allergies, sensitivities or reactions:
Injuries, pain or physical vulnerabilities to consider:
Relevant treatments, medical devices or restrictions to disclose:
Areas of the body to protect or avoid:
Information About Participant 2
Known allergies, sensitivities or reactions:
Injuries, pain or physical vulnerabilities to consider:
Relevant treatments, medical devices or restrictions to disclose:
Areas of the body to protect or avoid:
Planned Safety Measures
Select all measures appropriate to the chosen practices. A measure that is necessary for the safety of a practice cannot be waived.
A charged phone remains accessible during the practice
The equipment needed to quickly release a restrained person remains within reach
Keys for handcuffs, padlocks or other devices being used remain immediately accessible
A first-aid kit is available
Water is available before, during or after the session
Equipment is checked before each use
The play space is clear, stable and suitable for the planned movements
A restrained person or someone deprived of certain means of communication is never left unattended
The duration of restraints or positions is limited and checked regularly
Other safety measure:
What to Do in the Event of an Incident
In the event of injury, illness, loss of responsiveness or a concerning psychological reaction, the current activity stops immediately. Restraints are removed as soon as this can be done without making the situation worse.
Address or primary location of BDSM activities:
Emergency contact person, if needed:
How to contact this person:
Additional information that may be useful to emergency responders:
When the situation requires it, emergency services should be contacted promptly. The role being played, the private nature of the dynamic or concern about interrupting a session must never delay seeking help.
7. Limits and Interests of Both Participants
Limits apply to both participants. The Dominant also has the right to refuse a practice, role, responsibility or intensity they do not wish to take on.
A hard limit is a practice or situation that is prohibited. A conditional limit is a practice that may be considered only under the written conditions. An interest is something to discuss, not automatic permission.
Limits and Interests of Participant 1
Hard limits:
Conditional limits:
Conditions required to respect these limits:
Desired practices or experiences:
Practices to explore gradually:
Words, themes or emotional situations to avoid:
Limits and Interests of Participant 2
Hard limits:
Conditional limits:
Conditions required to respect these limits:
Desired practices or experiences:
Practices to explore gradually:
Words, themes or emotional situations to avoid:
Handling New Practices
Select one answer only.
Any practice not included in the contract remains prohibited until it is added in writing
A new practice may be tried after a clear discussion and explicit agreement given before the session
A new practice may be explored gradually under the following conditions:
Other rule concerning new practices:
No person is required to justify a hard limit. Previously accepting a practice does not prevent someone from refusing it or removing it from the contract later.
8. Permitted Physical Practices and Accessories
This section is optional. A selected practice is permitted only within the limits, intensity and conditions written in this contract.
Multiple answers may be selected.
No physical practice is included in this contract
Light restraint or holding the body in place
Bondage with rope, straps, handcuffs or agreed accessories
Impact play using hands or approved accessories
Sensory control, blindfolding or agreed limitation of certain senses
Temperature play under the conditions specified below
Clamps, pressure or light compression on approved areas
Postures, kneeling or assigned positions for a limited period
Control of movement or body position
Temporary marks within the chosen limits
Role-play involving previously defined simulated physical restraint
Other permitted physical practice:
If "No physical practice is included in this contract" is selected, no other answer in this section should be selected.
Permitted Accessories
Multiple answers may be selected.
No particular accessories
Rope appropriate for the planned practice
Handcuffs or restraint cuffs
Straps or restraint systems
Blindfold or mask
Collar or leash under the chosen conditions
Hands only for impact play
Impact-play accessories specifically identified below
Adjustable clamps or pressure accessories
Other permitted accessory:
If "No particular accessories" is selected, no other answer in this section should be selected.
Specifically approved accessories:
Prohibited accessories:
Agreed Intensity
Select one answer only.
Light intensity only
Moderate intensity
Gradually increasing intensity with regular check-ins
Different intensity depending on the practice, as specified below
Other intensity rule:
Details concerning intensity:
Approved areas of the body:
Prohibited areas of the body:
Visible Marks
Select one answer only.
No visible marks are accepted
Only light, discreet marks are accepted
Temporary marks are accepted on the following areas:
Other rule concerning marks:
Selecting any of the options above does not authorize practices intended to restrict breathing, cause loss of consciousness, severely impair blood circulation, cause burns, puncture the skin or create lasting marks. This contract never serves as approval for those practices, which require a separate framework and enhanced risk assessment.
9. Sexuality, Orgasms and Chastity
This section is optional. Choosing a BDSM dynamic does not automatically imply sexual activity, any specific act or orgasm control.
Role of Sexuality in the Dynamic
Select one answer only.
No sexual activity is included in this contract
Only expressly selected sexual practices are permitted
Sexual practices are decided before each session
Other sexual framework:
If "No sexual activity is included" is selected, the other sexual parts of this section should remain blank.
Permitted Sexual Practices
This section applies only when sexual activity is planned. Multiple answers may be selected.
Touching or manual stimulation
Self-masturbation permitted
Masturbation performed by the other participant
Oral sex
Vaginal penetration
Anal penetration
Use of expressly approved sex toys
Stimulation without orgasm
Other permitted sexual practice:
Prohibited sexual practices or practices subject to specific conditions:
Sexual Protection and Hygiene
Multiple answers may be selected.
Condoms used for the agreed practices
Barrier protection appropriate to the practice
Sex toys cleaned before and after use
Sex toys are not shared between participants without appropriate barrier protection or cleaning
No exchange of bodily fluids is accepted
Contraception method agreed by the participants
Prior discussion about sexually transmitted infection testing
Other protection or hygiene rule:
Any practice incompatible with the selected protections remains prohibited until a new explicit agreement is made.
Orgasm Rules
Select one answer only.
No specific orgasm control
Orgasm only with the Dominant's permission
Maximum of: orgasm(s) during the following period:
Orgasm denial for the following period:
Orgasms permitted according to the following schedule:
Other orgasm rule:
When orgasm is permitted, multiple answers may be selected.
Full orgasm
Ruined orgasm
Orgasm without ejaculation when possible
Other permitted form:
An involuntary orgasm must be reported when an orgasm-control rule has been selected, but it does not automatically constitute a violation of the contract.
Chastity
This section is optional. Select one answer only.
No chastity rule is included
Chastity without a physical device
Temporary use of a chastity device
Regular use of a device under the conditions specified below
Other form of chastity:
Device used, if any:
Duration or wear schedule:
Person holding the key or means of unlocking:
Authorized removals:
An emergency removal method must always remain accessible. Removal related to pain, hygiene, health, safety or withdrawal of consent never constitutes a violation.
Erotic Content
Select one answer only.
Freely allowed
Prohibited during the following period:
Allowed only with the Dominant's permission
Allowed only when it meets the following criteria:
Other rule:
Refusing sexual activity, using a safeword or withdrawing consent may never result in a consequence, pressure or debt owed to the other person.
10. Behavior Rules and Protocols
This section is optional. Protocols define an agreed way of behaving during certain parts of the dynamic. They apply only to the situations and periods written in this contract.
Protocol Level
Select one answer only.
No particular protocol
Light protocol used only during sessions
Protocol applied during certain clearly defined times
Protocol integrated into certain daily routines
Structured protocol applied within the limits of this contract
Other protocol level:
Selected Behaviors and Rituals
Multiple answers may be selected.
Use the agreed title when addressing the Dominant
Follow an agreed greeting or welcome formula
Ask permission before certain actions defined below
Adopt an agreed posture or position in certain situations
Follow agreed language or response rules
Follow an agreed appearance or clothing rule
Perform a ritual marking the beginning of the dynamic or a session
Perform a ritual marking the end of the dynamic or a session
Wear an agreed collar, piece of jewelry or symbol
Follow an agreed waiting ritual during the specified periods
Other behavior or ritual:
Actions requiring permission:
Greeting or manner of responding:
Agreed postures or positions:
Clothing or appearance rules:
Opening ritual:
Closing ritual:
Collar, Jewelry or Symbol of the Dynamic
Select one answer only.
No particular collar, jewelry or symbol
Worn only during sessions
Worn only in private
Worn discreetly in certain situations
Worn regularly under the following conditions:
Other rule:
Description of the chosen collar, jewelry or symbol:
Situations in Which the Protocol Is Suspended
Multiple answers may be selected.
During work, school or professional obligations
In the presence of family
In the presence of friends or acquaintances who are not aware of the dynamic
In public places when applying the protocol could involve or inconvenience people outside the dynamic
While driving or performing an activity that requires full attention
During illness, injury or recovery
During a real-life conflict or important discussion unrelated to BDSM play
Whenever either participant asks to communicate out of role
Other situation:
Word or phrase used to request immediate out-of-role communication:
In a public place, the protocol must remain discreet and must never require participation from, inconvenience or sexually expose non-consenting people outside the dynamic.
11. Tasks, Services and Dynamic Tracking
This section is optional. Tasks, services and forms of tracking must remain compatible with each person's health, work, education, family obligations and actual resources. A task not included in the agreement may be refused or renegotiated. Its supposed urgency, a person's role or the authority entrusted under the dynamic never replaces the consent that is required.
Selected Tasks and Services
Multiple answers may be selected.
No particular task or service
Agreed household tasks
Non-sexual personal service for the Dominant
Prepare the space or equipment before a session
Put away or clean equipment after a session
Exercise, study or training related to the dynamic
Other task or service:
If "No particular task or service" is selected, no other answer in this section should be selected.
Specifically agreed tasks or services:
Person responsible for completing them:
Planned frequency:
Usual deadline:
Special conditions:
Availability and Response Times
Select one answer only.
No particular availability requirement
Availability only during the periods defined in the contract
A response is expected within a reasonable period of:
Availability varies according to the following situations:
Other availability rule:
Failure to respond because of sleep, work, driving, a technical issue, an emergency or announced unavailability does not automatically constitute a breach.
Selected Forms of Tracking
Multiple answers may be selected.
No regular tracking
Weekly check-in
Monthly check-in
Personal journal kept by its author
Shared journal between both participants
Task and commitment tracking sheet
Confirmation that agreed tasks have been completed
Other form of tracking:
If "No regular tracking" is selected, no other answer in this section should be selected.
Tracking frequency or dates:
Method or platform used for tracking:
Information that must remain private:
Tracking must not become a form of constant surveillance. Each person retains the right to keep private any information that is not necessary to apply the agreed rules.
12. Consequences and Rewards
This section is optional. A BDSM consequence is a response agreed in advance within the dynamic. It must not be used to settle a real-life dispute, obtain consent, or punish a limit, health difficulty or request to stop.
General Framework for Consequences
Select one answer only.
No consequences are planned
Symbolic consequences only
Non-physical consequences selected in this contract
Physical consequences only from practices already permitted in section 8
Symbolic, non-physical or physical consequences within the written limits
Other framework:
If "No consequences are planned" is selected, the other sections concerning consequences should remain blank.
Situations That May Result in a Consequence
Multiple answers may be selected.
Deliberately breaking a clear and achievable rule
Deliberately failing to complete an agreed task without explanation
Deliberately hiding a fact directly related to the rules of the contract
Deliberately ignoring a protocol during a period when it applied
Failing to honor a specific commitment when it could reasonably have been met
Other defined situation:
A mistake, misunderstanding, technical problem or genuine inability should be discussed first. It does not automatically constitute a deliberate violation.
Permitted Consequences
Multiple answers may be selected.
Discussion and reminder of the relevant rule
Written or verbal apology in the agreed form
Reasonable corrective task agreed in advance
Repeat an exercise, protocol or training activity
Temporary suspension of a privilege defined below
Postponement of a planned reward
Temporary change to an orgasm rule within the limits of section 9
A physical practice already permitted, with intensity remaining within the limits of section 8
Other agreed consequence:
Privilege that may be temporarily suspended:
Maximum duration of a consequence:
Specific limits that apply to consequences:
The chosen consequence must be proportionate, understood and compatible with the person's current physical and emotional condition. It may be refused, stopped or replaced with a discussion.
No consequence may be applied for using a safeword or nonverbal signal, requesting a pause, expressing a limit, withdrawing consent, experiencing a health problem or refusing a new practice.
Rewards
Multiple answers may be selected.
No particular reward
Praise, recognition or expression of appreciation
Temporary access to an agreed privilege
Activity or time chosen by the person receiving the reward
Temporary relaxation of a rule or protocol
Stimulation or sexual activity already permitted in section 9
Orgasm permitted under the conditions set out in section 9
Symbolic gift with no financial obligation
Other reward:
If "No particular reward" is selected, no other answer in this section should be selected.
Conditions for earning a reward:
Specifically agreed rewards:
A reward must never be presented as required compensation for a sexual act, spending money, abandoning a limit or giving up the right to stop the dynamic.
13. Humiliation, Symbolic Degradation and Exposure
This is a sensitive and entirely optional section. Humiliation is never included by default in a BDSM dynamic.
Permitted words, themes, gestures and situations should be identified precisely. Humiliation accepted in one specific context does not become blanket permission to demean the other person outside that framework.
Role of Humiliation in the Dynamic
Select one answer only.
No humiliation or symbolic degradation
Light humiliation only in private
Humiliation limited to certain defined scenes or role-play scenarios
Symbolic degradation incorporated into certain private protocols
Other framework:
Potentially Permitted Forms
This section applies only if some form of humiliation has been agreed. Multiple answers may be selected.
Expressly agreed words or forms of address
Symbolic postures or positions
Agreed clothing or presentation in private
Role-play involving service or symbolic inferiority
Playful evaluation or criticism of performance within the agreed limits
Role-play involving clearly scripted humiliation
Other permitted form:
Permitted words or forms of address:
Prohibited words, themes or comparisons:
Situations in which humiliation is permitted:
Situations in which it is prohibited:
Public Settings or Presence of Other People
Select one answer only.
All humiliation remains strictly private
Only discreet, non-sexual signals are permitted in public
A scene may take place only at an appropriate BDSM event or venue
A scene may take place only in the presence of informed and consenting people
Other framework:
People outside the dynamic must never be unknowingly involved in a sexual scene, humiliation or role-play. This contract does not override venue rules, other people's rights or legal obligations.
Humiliation must stop if it causes genuine distress, touches on a prohibited theme or goes beyond the chosen framework. Its emotional impact should be addressed during aftercare and the planned post-session debrief.
14. Third Parties and Other Partners
This is a sensitive and optional section. This contract does not grant permanent authorization to involve a third party or another partner.
Each new person must understand the nature of their participation, give their own consent and respect the applicable limits, safewords and confidentiality rules.
Third-Party Participation
Select one answer only.
No third party or other partner is permitted
Presence permitted as an observer only
Participation limited to practices defined in advance
Participation decided separately before each scene
Other rule:
Conditions Required Before a Third Party Is Present
Multiple answers may be selected. All conditions relevant to the planned scene must be met.
Identity or nickname known before meeting
Prior discussion among everyone involved
Role and level of participation defined before the scene
Permitted and prohibited practices defined in advance
Safewords and stop signals known to everyone involved
Clear commitment regarding confidentiality
Sexual protection and hygiene rules defined
Final confirmation from each person shortly before the scene
Other condition:
Identity or nickname of any third parties already approved, if applicable:
Potentially permitted role:
Practices in which a third party may participate:
Practices prohibited with a third party:
Confirmation and Withdrawal of Agreement
Multiple answers may be selected.
Specific agreement is confirmed before every scene involving a third party
Each person may withdraw their agreement before or during the scene
New agreement is requested whenever the practice, role or participant changes
Other rule strengthening confirmation or the right to withdraw:
Consent remains revocable throughout the scene. A person who withdraws may not be punished, guilted or replaced by an authorization supposedly granted in this contract.
The submissive may not be handed over, loaned, presented or made available to a third party solely at the Dominant's decision. Participation with a third party always requires specific, current agreement from everyone involved.
15. Remote Control, Digital Communication and Privacy
This is a sensitive and optional section. A remote dynamic does not automatically grant access to devices, accounts, passwords, private communications or location data.
Digital rules must be limited to specifically agreed methods, times and information.
Permitted Forms of Remote Communication
Multiple answers may be selected.
No particular remote rules
Written messages
Audio calls
Video calls agreed in advance
Remote tasks or exercises
Reminders related to selected rules or protocols
Report sent at the agreed frequency
Limited proof that a task was completed under the specified conditions
Other form of communication:
If "No particular remote rules" is selected, no other answer in this section should be selected.
Apps or communication methods used:
Usual days or times:
Periods during which no messages are expected:
Proof of Task Completion
Select one answer only.
No proof is requested
Written confirmation only
Non-intimate photo limited to the relevant task
Photo or video only after specific agreement for each submission
Other form of confirmation:
Conditions and limits for requested proof:
No intimate photo or video should be required to prove obedience, avoid a consequence or maintain the relationship. The creation, storage and sharing of images are addressed separately in section 17.
Location Sharing
Select one answer only.
No location sharing
One-time location sharing only for an agreed safety reason
Location sharing limited to travel to a specific meeting or event
Sharing for the following limited period:
Other location-sharing rule:
Location sharing may be turned off at any time. Disabling it does not automatically constitute a violation and must never prevent someone from going to a safe place.
Access to Devices, Accounts and Private Communications
Select one answer only.
No access to devices, accounts, passwords or private communications
Access limited only to the following item:
Use of an account or space created specifically for the dynamic
Other digital arrangement:
Specific limits of any permitted access:
Date or condition ending this access:
Bank accounts, administrative documents, work communications, medical communications, primary passwords and conversations with third parties remain outside this contract.
Permitted access may be withdrawn at any time. Shared passwords must be changeable without permission, and no copies should be retained after the authorization ends.
Prohibited Digital Behaviors
The following practices are prohibited. They are not selectable options and cannot be authorized by a broad interpretation of this contract.
Installing surveillance software or hidden tracking
Impersonation or posting in the other person's name
Reading private conversations that have not been expressly authorized
Changing or deleting an account without current permission
Threatening to disclose private information, images or conversations
Contacting friends, coworkers or family members without permission
Blocking the person's access to their own accounts or devices
These prohibitions apply even if another rule in the contract could be interpreted more broadly.
Digital communication must be able to stop immediately when a person is working, driving, sleeping, spending time with loved ones, dealing with a real-life difficulty or asking for time outside the dynamic.
16. Money, Budget, Spending and Gifts
This is a sensitive and entirely optional section. A BDSM dynamic does not automatically grant any right over another person's money, income, bank accounts, payment methods or property.
Spending related to the dynamic must remain compatible with essential needs, regular expenses and each person's actual resources. No financial commitment should create debt, dependence or material hardship.
Role of Money in the Dynamic
Select one answer only.
No financial control or required spending
Agreed sharing of certain expenses related to sessions or equipment
Limited BDSM budget defined in this contract
Voluntary gifts with no ongoing obligation
Financial-control play limited to the amounts and conditions written below
Other financial arrangement:
Potential Expenses Covered
This section applies only when a budget or shared expenses have been selected. Multiple answers may be selected.
Agreed BDSM equipment and accessories
Clothing, jewelry or presentation items
Venue rental or attendance at an event
Transportation related to an agreed meeting or event
Workshop, class or learning activity chosen together
Symbolic gift
Other permitted expense:
Maximum budget per expense:
Maximum weekly or monthly budget:
Person or people responsible for expenses:
Expenses requiring prior confirmation:
Rules Concerning Gifts
Select one answer only.
No gifts are expected as part of the dynamic
Gifts remain entirely optional and voluntary
Gifts are limited to the following occasions:
Gifts may not exceed the following amount:
Other rule concerning gifts:
Mandatory Financial Safeguards
The following rules apply in every case, even when limited financial play has been agreed. They are not optional.
No debt may be taken on to satisfy a BDSM rule
No credit, loan or deferred-payment arrangement may be taken out for the dynamic
Housing, food, healthcare, transportation and mandatory expenses remain the priority
No access to another person's bank accounts or payment methods
No power of attorney or transfer of ownership related to the dynamic
Written spending limits may not be exceeded without a separate new agreement
Any financial rule may be suspended immediately without consequence
No amount of money, expense or proof of payment may be demanded under threat of ending the relationship, public humiliation, disclosure of private information or any other form of pressure.
Participants should clearly specify whether an item is being given as a gift or merely loaned. Items loaned or used in the dynamic are returned under the written conditions.
Loaned items or property:
Return conditions or date:
17. Confidentiality, Photos, Videos and Recordings
This section distinguishes between creating an image, storing it, viewing it and sharing it. Permission to take a photo or video does not automatically grant permission to keep, send or publish it.
Confidentiality also covers nicknames, messages, the contents of the contract, selected practices, health information and any details that could identify the participants.
Level of Confidentiality
Select one answer only.
The dynamic remains strictly private between the participants
It may be discussed only with the people identified below
It may be discussed under a nickname without information that could identify anyone
Other confidentiality rule:
People with whom certain details may be discussed:
Information that may be shared with them:
Information that must always remain confidential:
Creating Photos or Videos
Select one answer only.
All photos, videos and screenshots are prohibited
Specific permission is requested before each photo or recording
Images may be created only under the conditions specified below
Other rule concerning image creation:
Types of Images That May Be Permitted
This section applies only when creating images has been agreed. Multiple answers may be selected.
Non-intimate photos
Photos of equipment or the setup without any identifiable person
Images with the face and identifying details hidden
Images showing the face only after specific permission
Intimate images only after specific permission for each image
Video recording under the specified conditions
Audio recording under the specified conditions
Other type of recording:
Body parts or situations that may be photographed:
Body parts or situations excluded from photographs:
Details that must be hidden or removed:
Storage of Images and Recordings
Multiple answers may be selected.
Images are deleted immediately after viewing
They are kept only by the person shown in them
They are kept only by the following person:
They are kept in a protected location agreed by the participants
They are kept for the following maximum period:
Other storage rule:
If "Images are deleted immediately after viewing" is selected, no other answer in this section should be selected.
Approved storage location or medium:
Protection measure used:
Sharing and Publication
Select one answer only.
All sharing, transfer or publication is prohibited
Private sharing only between the participants
Sharing permitted only after specific agreement about the image and its recipient
Anonymous publication permitted only after everyone visible in the image approves the final version
Other sharing rule:
Potentially approved recipients or platforms:
Mandatory conditions before sharing:
Permission to share may be withdrawn before publication. An image that has already been sent should be deleted by the people who hold it when requested and when this is practically possible.
No image, video, conversation or private information may be used to threaten, pressure or humiliate someone outside the agreed framework, or to prevent the relationship from ending.
End of Contract and Deletion
Select one answer only.
All images and copies must be deleted when the contract ends
Files are given to the person concerned and then deleted from other devices
Only images separately approved for retention may be kept
A joint decision is made when the contract ends. If no agreement is reached, the images are deleted
Other rule:
18. Communication, Debriefs and Aftercare
Out-of-role communication helps distinguish a genuine difficulty from an element of play. Each person must be able to express their condition, limits and feelings without having to maintain a Dominant or submissive role.
Aftercare refers to the care and support planned after a session or intense experience. These needs may apply to the submissive, the Dominant or both participants.
Communication Before a Session
Multiple answers may be selected.
Check each person's physical condition
Check emotional state and stress level
Confirm any limits or special restrictions for that day
Review planned practices and intensities
Review safewords and the nonverbal signal
Confirm aftercare needs
Check available time and confirm there are no urgent obligations after the session
Other pre-session check:
Aftercare for Participant 1
Multiple answers may be selected.
Physical contact, closeness or cuddling
Blanket, warmth or comfortable clothing
Water, a drink or a light snack
Cleaning, skin care or checking marks
Reassuring words and confirmation that the scene is over
Brief discussion of immediate feelings
Calm and quiet
Time alone in a safe place
Rest or sleep
Message or call after an agreed period
Other aftercare need:
Specific needs of participant 1:
Actions or behaviors to avoid after a session:
Aftercare for Participant 2
Multiple answers may be selected.
Physical contact, closeness or cuddling
Blanket, warmth or comfortable clothing
Water, a drink or a light snack
Cleaning, skin care or checking marks
Reassuring words and confirmation that the scene is over
Brief discussion of immediate feelings
Calm and quiet
Time alone in a safe place
Rest or sleep
Message or call after an agreed period
Other aftercare need:
Specific needs of participant 2:
Actions or behaviors to avoid after a session:
Aftercare Arrangements
Multiple answers may be selected.
Aftercare immediately after each session
Aftercare adapted to the intensity and expressed needs
Separate time is planned for each participant according to their needs
Remote aftercare under the arrangements specified below
Other arrangement:
Approximate time reserved for aftercare:
Planned arrangements when participants are remote:
Post-Session Debriefs
Multiple answers may be selected.
Immediate brief discussion after the session
Another check-in a few hours later
Message or call the next day
Debrief within the next two or three days
Debrief before the next session
Other time:
The debrief may cover what was enjoyed, what was difficult, any remaining marks or pain, emotions that came up, limits that should be adjusted and practices that should not be repeated.
A delayed emotional reaction, low mood, fatigue or need for distance should be taken seriously. It does not prove that the session failed or that either participant did something wrong.
19. Modification, Pause and End of the Contract
The contract may be modified, suspended or ended by either participant. No role, title, commitment or previous agreement removes this right.
Changing the Rules
Select one answer only.
Every modification must be written, dated and signed by both participants
Every modification must be written and clearly confirmed by both participants
Modifications are added in an appendix to the contract
Any major modification requires a new contract
Other method:
A rule agreed only verbally does not replace a written term of the contract when it expands authority, adds a practice, increases intensity or removes a safeguard.
If there is a contradiction or uncertainty, the rule concerned is suspended until a clear version is accepted by both participants.
Temporary Pause
A request from either participant is enough to suspend the contract. The following situations may also justify a pause.
Illness, injury or recovery period
Emotional difficulty, stress or significant fatigue
A real-life conflict between the participants
Work, family or personal obligations
Distance or temporary inability to communicate properly
An incident requiring reflection or a review of the rules
Other reason:
During a pause, authority, tasks, protocols, consequences and availability obligations no longer apply unless a safety rule or practical arrangement is expressly maintained by both participants.
Conditions that may remain in place during a pause:
Conditions required before resuming:
Resuming requires explicit agreement. The passage of time or apparent resolution of the issue does not automatically restart the dynamic.
Ending the Contract
Either participant may end the contract immediately with a clear request. No notice period, meeting or agreement from the other participant may be required.
Multiple practical arrangements may be selected.
The contract ends on the chosen date or deadline if it is not renewed
The ending is confirmed in writing to avoid misunderstandings
A closing discussion is offered but is not mandatory
Other ending arrangement:
Steps to Take After the Contract Ends
Multiple answers may be selected.
Immediate end of titles, protocols and role rules
Return of loaned items, keys, documents or accessories
Removal of digital access and changes to relevant passwords
End all location sharing
Apply the rules selected in section 17 concerning images
Maintain confidentiality commitments
Closing discussion if both participants want one
No-contact period under the specified conditions
Other measure:
Deadline for returning items:
Conditions of any no-contact period:
Ending the contract does not authorize revenge, threats, disclosure of private information, improper retention of access or use of images against the wishes of the person concerned.
20. Custom Rules and Signatures
Additional Rules or Conditions
Rules added in this section must remain compatible with the limits, safety conditions, right to use a safeword and right to end the contract.
Custom rule 1:
Custom rule 2:
Custom rule 3:
Custom rule 4:
Additional limits or details for participant 1:
Additional limits or details for participant 2:
Appendices or documents associated with the contract:
Final Statements
By signing this contract, both participants confirm that they:
Are adults and are participating voluntarily in the dynamic
Have read and understood the selected rules
Have discussed their expectations, limits and safety needs
Understand that consent remains revocable at any time
Know the selected safewords and stop signals
Understand that the contract represents a personal and symbolic commitment
Each have an accessible copy of the contract
The contract grants no ownership rights over any person. It does not permit forcing a practice, holding someone against their will or preventing someone from seeking help.
The consent, safety, confidentiality and contract-ending clauses remain applicable even when a custom rule, title or scenario could otherwise be interpreted differently.
Participant 1
Name or nickname:
Role at the time of signing:
Signature:
Date:
Participant 2
Name or nickname:
Role at the time of signing:
Signature:
Date:
Date of the next scheduled review:
The contract is prepared in two copies. Each participant keeps a complete copy including the selected options, completed fields and any appendices.
How to Complete and Use This BDSM Contract
Start by entering the participants' identities, their roles, the scope of the dynamic and its duration. Then define the core rules concerning consent, safewords, health, safety and each person's limits.
Every selected option should reflect a genuine agreement understood by both participants. Avoid vague rules, overly broad permissions and conditions that are impossible to apply. When a field asks for details, clearly specify the relevant practices, locations, durations or limits.
Optional sections should be completed only when they genuinely apply to your dynamic. A BDSM relationship does not automatically involve sexuality, daily protocols, humiliation, financial control or third-party participation.
Finally, review the entire document to make sure no options contradict one another. Once the contract is complete, print two copies and sign them. Each participant keeps a complete and accessible copy.
Which Sections of the BDSM Contract Should You Complete?
The sections covering participants, the scope of the dynamic, consent, safewords, health, limits, communication and ending the contract form the core of the document. They establish who is participating, which rules apply and how the dynamic can be stopped.
Physical and sexual practices should be selected only after they have been discussed specifically. A permitted practice must remain within the selected intensity, approved body areas, accepted accessories and planned safety conditions.
The sections covering protocols, tasks, consequences, humiliation, third parties, digital control, money and images are optional. A section that does not apply to your relationship can simply be left unused. The contract does not need to use every available option to be coherent.
For an ongoing or 24/7 dynamic, schedule regular review dates. These reviews make it possible to remove a rule that no longer fits, adjust a limit or confirm that the entrusted authority remains compatible with both participants' everyday lives.
Is a BDSM Contract Legally Binding?
A BDSM contract is primarily a personal and symbolic agreement. It can formalize the roles, limits, practices and commitments chosen by the participants, but it does not give either person legal authority over the other.
Consent remains freely given and may be withdrawn at any time. Signing the document does not replace the consent required for each practice and never allows anyone to ignore a refusal, safeword, request for a pause or decision to end the dynamic.
No clause can create ownership rights over a person, force a practice or prevent a participant from seeking help. Rules concerning health, safety, confidentiality and ending the contract always remain the priority.
The purpose of the document is therefore to make the dynamic clearer. It creates a record of the decisions made, reduces misunderstandings and provides a shared framework for discussing, changing, suspending or ending the rules when necessary.
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